Friday, 30 August 2013

I Abhor War.

I abhor war, not because I love peace, which is true; I do. That's a no-brainer.

I abhor war because it causes hurt, harm and pain. All of these I understand in a visceral manner, a sensation, and in experience. I would not want to inflict on any other.

A person whose natural empathy is intact has no need of rules or morals, for they FEEL the world and their behavior is guided by that feeling, a full multi-sensory perception.

I would rather my response to war was REAL - based on the lived experience - rather than merely tout an intellectual or moral objection.

It's rather sobering to think that there are so many 'good people' in the Governing Structures of Power who, for whatever reason, set this aside and implement Policy. It is also very, very sad. Tragic.

Because it is avoidable. After all Human Behaviour is learned, it is not set in stone

The State and The Dysfunctional Family are the same thing, the latter being the root of the former, which is institutionalized, that is to say it is bound up in self preseerving Social Structures (socially operational organisations and their infrastructure) designed to mediate control OVER people, often justified by un-questioned or un-examined parental-like aphorisms, such as "This is for your own good."

It too conditions the children to adhere to the 'norm'. Kings, War and Glory are it's central myths.

Outcomes that are harm causing that are the result of actions taken to 'protect' the State are either ignored or justified.

No real reform emerges because the core issue, that of adverse behaviour patterns inherent in intergenerational psychological dysfunction is not yet recognised as working part of the political dynamic. 

Which it is. 

Of course.

If we want to change any of this we have to start at home, with our own children, and as they grow up, at School and at our own workplaces, so that a generation emerges that has broken the cycle of trauma and conditioning.

A generation who could move into those positions associated with Governance, a generation whose empathy is intact, a generation who could work with the grass roots, the people and transform how Power is mediated.

This is long term work, with the welfare of our great grandchildren always at the center of our deliberations and actions.

In essence we are tasked with healing, from ourselves to our communities.

Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe

Thursday, 15 August 2013

Internalised Values.

I was born in 1959, in Catholic Ireland, a system of Religious and Political control rooted in unresolved trauma.

A PTSD Culture. Intergenerational Trauma describes how children born to traumatised parents grow into that PTSD psychology, because children must as the environment presents.


The 'phrase' : "One must sometimes be cruel to be kind" ..... as opposed to "it is cool to be kind".

 
Having internalised the values of the system into which I was born, (as is 'normal' ) I adjusted to shame, I became guilt ridden, fearful, grasping, envious, angry, spiteful; I behaved like a bully and tried to exercise control over those 'close to me' on a minute by minute basis to meet my unresolved need, the need for self empathy, a need I did not understand.

Thus it was a need I could not meet. 


I tried to 'fit in'. I wanted to 'survive'.

The concept of 'thriving' was unknown to me.
 
Because in internalising those values I became less human, less humane. I learned to mimic love whilst feeling only fear, whilst burying the fear..... 

I carried off the illusion by 'being nice', by conforming, even though I had a ferocious temper, an irrational spark that ignited from time to time.

I became firstly religious, then ideological.. Then I became a technocrat, and even an 'atheist'.

All the while I rejected any exposure of this internalisation, accidental or intentional, as an attack on my very psyche.

I ran from love because I could not love myself. I could not love myself because those who had 'reared' me could not provide a living example of what they themselves did not know. Self empathy.

What love I thought I felt was in reality an insecure attachment to a projected image, a fantasy I nurtured within which was mirrored in the fantasies, stories and mythology of the system into which I was born. I adapted and adjusted.

I bought the products, I read the novels, I watched the movies. These reinforced the internalisations of the system. I thought I was safe.

Then I broke down. I did not understand why I broke down and thus was frightened, terrorised by my own need to grow more human, more humane.

I broke down a number of times before I was able to start finding myself, through understanding what had happened to me as a child, and how I had reacted to that, how I 'adapted' unconsciously to 'survive', to 'fit in'.

It took a long time, with many pitfalls and many tears, many nightmares and many dead ends, to examine what I had internalised and to let those internalisations fall away, to die to the system, to compost my trauma, to begin to nurture my own present, and my children's present, my own future and the futures of my children and their children in turn.

I did not do this by challenging the system, by protesting, though these are indeed necessary actions. Quite often my protest was incoherent, my challenges based on 'morality' rather than insight.

Fracking is inhumane.

Fracking is a symptom of a disease state.

Fracking is all about profit and power as substitutes and toxic mimes for being truly human, being truly alive; a toxic mime of natural self mastery.

'Progress' is a toxic mime of nurturing life. Civilisation is a toxic mime of the fecundity of the natural world.

The frackers are dehumanised people. To end fracking they must be exposed, somehow, to a humanising experience, largely of their own choosing. An aware choice is the only means to break free from the dehumanising situation they are in.

Protesting is a first step in that direction, it is an invitation to become more human. It is a gift.

The toxic mime of self mastery that is 'progress' involves mastering others through coercion. This is what war is all about. This is what teachers are taught as teaching. Policemen as policing. Politicians as Governance. Priests as Spirituality. Coercion can be psychological as much as physical.

The pathological will always ignore the costs others pay for the pathological behaviour in order to protect themselves from full awareness of themselves, to preserve the illusion they live within. I did. For a long time.

The system will not change voluntarily because it IS a system, an unconsciously built construct, a box, a thing which has no real life, that is not truly living for it cannot nurture the world which it fears, and tries to control. It will not respond to protest other than to broker a deal for it's own survival, and it's reactions are lethal.

Iraq, Libya, Egypt. All in the name of 'democracy'. The War on Terror, the War on Drugs. All in the name of protecting the people. Lies. Santa Claus.

The necessary lies of those who have internalised the values of the system. The Daily Mail. The Vatican. Myself.

When I lied to myself I was trapped. When I let the truth in, my escape was made more likely, though not inevitable.


Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe

Monday, 5 August 2013

10 PREMISES


THESE ARE 10 BASIC PREMISES BASED ON EVIDENCE WHICH INFORMS MY WRITINGS.


1. THE PSYCHOLOGY OF ANY GIVEN SOCIETY, COMMUNITY OR FAMILY IS BOTH REVEALED AND PERPETUATED IN HOW THAT SOCIETY, COMMUNITY OR FAMILY RELATES TO AND TREATS THE CHILDREN. CHANGE THAT AND YOU CHANGE THE ENTIRE SOCIETY.

2. OUR BIOLOGY IS MANDATED TOWARDS EMPATHY, AUTONOMY, SENSITIVITY, CONNECTION, SELF MASTERY AND THE DEVELOPMENT OF NURTURING RELATIONSHIPS THROUGH OBSERVING, LEARNING AND EXPERIENCE, IN LINE WITH OPTIMUM BIOLOGICAL HEALTH OF THE HUMAN ORGANISM AND SPECIES, LIVING WITHIN THE ENVIRONMENT, AS PART OF THAT ENVIRONMENT.

3. BEHAVIOUR IS LARGELY DETERMINED BY EXPERIENCE AND ENVIRONMENT. BOTH HAVE THE POWER TO AFFECT DEVELOPMENT, TO TRIGGER EITHER OPTIMUM HEALTH OR PATHOLOGY. DNA OR GENETICS DOES NOT DETERMINE BEHAVIOUR AS MUCH AS ENVIRONMENT OR EXPERIENCE.

4. IF A CHILD IS PRESENTING SYMPTOMS OF CHRONIC DISTRESS THAT TELLS US THAT THE BIOLOGICAL MANDATE GOVERNING THE NATURAL DEVELOPMENT OF THAT CHILD IS BEING DISRUPTED.

5. RESOLUTION OF THE FACTORS CAUSING CHRONIC DISTRESS HAS TO BE THE TOP PRIORITY BECAUSE THAT LEADS TO PREVENTION AS WELL AS SYMPTOM ALLEVIATION. PREVENTION MUSTY ALWAYS BE THE GUIDING PRINCIPLE. EACH CASE IS UNIQUE, AND MUST BE RESPONDED TO UNIQUELY.

6. INSTITUTIONAL SOCIETY TELLS US TO MONITOR, LABEL, CONTROL AND SUPPRESS CHRONIC SYMPTOMS OF DISTRESS, AND IN SO DOING WE ARE INADVERTENTLY DIRECTED TO AVOID ADDRESSING THE CAUSES. THIS RESULTS IN CRUELTY..

7. INSTITUTIONAL SOCIETY PERMITS THIS CRUELTY (BY AVOIDING RECOGNISING IT AS CRUELTY) BECAUSE IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THE CAUSES OF DISTRESS WHICH ARE TRACEABLE TO INSTITUTIONAL POLICIES AND ACTION REMAIN HIDDEN, IN ORDER TO PROTECT INSTITUTIONAL IMAGE, STATUS AND POWER.

eg: THE VATICAN. TONY BLAIR. JIMMY SAVILLE. ETC.,  - IN  OTHER WORDS, THIS CRUELTY IS DEEMED ACCEPTABLE BECAUSE IT PROTECTS THESE INSTITUTIONS.

8. GRASS ROOTS ACTION IN TAKING ON PARENTING WITH CURRENT AWARENESS AND UNDERSTANDING OF SCIENTIFIC AND COMMON-SENSE FACTS CONCERNING CHILDREN’S DEVELOPMENT WITH A VIEW TO PROVIDING THE NURTURING ENVIRONMENT OUR BIOLOGICAL MANDATES IS POSSIBLE.

9. GRASS ROOTS ACTION, BEHAVIOUR AND LOBBYING ON THIS ISSUE IS ALSO POSSIBLE. HOMESCHOOLERS HAVE PROVEN THEMSELVES TO BE EXTREMELY EFFICIENT AND EFFECTIVE LOBBYISTS, WHEN THEIR CULTURE WAS THREATENED WITH GOVERNMENT INTERVENTIONS WHICH WOULD HAVE UNDERMINED WHAT THEY ARE DOING AT THE GRASS ROOTS. THEIR ACTIVISM LED TO THE LARGEST NUMBER OF PETITIONS MADE TO PARLIAMENT RECORDED. ALL PARENTS AND THEIR CHILDREN CAN BECOME PART OF AN EFFECTIVE LOBBYING MOVEMENT WITHIN SOCIETY.

10. INSTITUTIONAL SOCIETY IS ITSELF AN EXPRESSION OF UNRESOLVED PTSD ISSUES. IT IS A SERIES OF CONSTRUCTS, IMAGINAL AND MATERIAL, WHICH REFLECT AND PROJECT THE PSYCHOLOGY OF A TRAUMA SURVIVOR WHO IS BARELY COPING WITH THE SITUATION, PRETENDING TO BE OK, OVER CONTROLLING ALL THOSE AROUND AND EXERCISING POWER TO SUPPRESS ANY SIGNS OF A DISCLOSURE OF THE PRETENCE, OR OF THE UNDERLYING PAIN, FEAR AND GRIEF WHICH BEING UNRESOLVED IS THE DRIVING FORCE, PUSHING ALL THIS ALONG.



Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe